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The physiological processes in relation to male and female orgasms, examines their influence in the process of sexual game called gay male chastity on the mood and behavior of the game participants, as well as on their mutual relationships.

The information presented can be very useful for women and men to understand each other, regardless of whether you are fans of this sexual game or not.

This is a couple who practice a constant sex game in which wife regulates when and how her husband John has ejaculation. On average, this is 3-6 times, or even 12 months (once a year).

This is achieved by wearing chastity belt on an ongoing basis and his penis was locked up in a chastity device. Once again, the couple is vanilla and these restrictions are purely sexual game, not connected with punishment / control / education / submission, for wife prefers to sleep in the same bed with the Man, and not with the submissive rag.

They began this experiment with initiative. At first, wife could not understand for a long time where he had balls in his head for the videos, but later studying the issue and agreeing to the experiment solely out of love for her husband, after 6 months she was shocked by the positive result and this became their permanent lifestyle.

Another important note – wearing a chastity belt does not provide for the absence of sex in this game. On the contrary, sex becomes many times more, the wife gets a lot more orgasms than before, but the husband does not get an orgasm.

Male chastity is pleasure, dedication, and scientific facts at their core

Recently, I studied the scientific facts about sex and especially the science of orgasm. I looked for answers to some questions that I had regarding my reaction to chastity, such as:

  • Why am I always in a good mood during periods of my chastity?
  • Why are my orgasms, when I have those, very intense and last much longer than usual, not at all like I used to feel before?
  • Why do I have such an intense feeling of devotion to my wife, a desire to help her, during periods of my chastity?
  • Why does this intense feeling of devotion leave me instantly after I have an orgasm and only returns a few days, sometimes a week or even more?
  • Why is my wife much more enthusiastic about sex now than before we started practicing the experiment with male chastity?
  • Why is my wife now in a much better mood than before?
  • Why does she show much more desire for sexual experimentation, and in general our relationship has become much warmer and more playful when we are just together and not having sex?

These questions bore my head for some time, but I did not need to think about them and study them more deeply until several things happened.

First, trying to explain to my wife that powerful feeling of devotion to her, I compared it with the post-orgasmic feeling of intimacy that we always experienced after sex lying woven on the bed, telling each other how happy we were that we found each other. That feeling did not last very long, do it? This remark made me wonder why it really does not last long.

Secondly, It was a treasure trove of wisdom, arguments, and excellent advice, which are based on the development of relationships with her husband, and her thoughts on this. In this blog, she described that increasing the period between orgasms for her husband from a month to three or four, and even up to seven months the minimum date for his next orgasm is Christmas, and the latter was in May, with serious consideration of increasing the period between orgasms years or more, and even a discussion of the constant lack of orgasms that is, never.

Be careful what you wish for, this is a super collection of her thoughts, wisdom and advice on whether male chastity is acceptable to you, if so, how to adapt this lifestyle to the maximum and how to make it work for you, as for a pair it is repeatedly stressed that the game is for two, and not a way to subordinate the husband. One thing she discussed in this book is the increase in the periods between orgasms for her husband. Her arguments are logical and even mathematically accurate.

First, she argues that according to their husband’s experience on male chastity so far, there is a clear behavioral pattern, namely, after John’s orgasm, he loses that powerful feeling of devotion to his wife for 7-10 days. Then she considered that once her month orgasm, she loses that powerful feeling of devotion to her, which is generated by male chastity for 120 days a year. She considered that it was a great loss to allow her if she was not obliged to allow her, and she was not obliged.

Men looked quite satisfied with less frequent orgasms until the present part of sexual play T & D (Tease & Denial – sex game when my wife in every possible way tries to excite her husband by any means available including vaginal sex, bring it almost to orgasm, the only limitation – the husband cannot finish without the permission of his wife – even if only Sarah received orgasms in this game.

This description of loss of devotion to his wife after orgasm and his general state of happiness during periods of chastity very closely coincided with my experience and made me wonder what is the best period between orgasms for me. During my own experiment with chastity, the longest period between orgasms was 18 days and I remember that feeling as I literally jumped out of my skin so I was excited by the prospect of sexual discharge.

Do I need to increase, and if so, by how much? Can I learn longer periods of time?

I began to look for my answers trying to understand the change in mood that occurs after an orgasm, especially after a long period of chastity.

From previous experience, I knew that mood was often due to the presence, concentration, or absence of certain neurotransmitters. So I began my search on the Internet with “sex and neurotransmitters” and “orgasm and neurotransmitters”.

I found that the relationship between sex and orgasm and our mood is not a secret, the biochemical mechanism is quite understandable. I also found that these mechanisms provide answers not only to those questions that relate to changes in mood and male chastity, but also answer many other questions about which I did not even think.

At the end of this article I will give a list of some web resources that may be interesting in understanding these mechanisms. Each of these resources, in turn, provides further links for more in-depth investigation. There are a number of neurotransmitters that shape our mood throughout life, but three of them are basic, the key ones that relate to sex and orgasm are dopamine, prolactin and oxytocin. The fourth factor is the concentration of receptors for these neurotransmitters, especially dopamine. Sexual activity and orgasm generate predictable level charts for each of these three mediators, as well as receptors.

Men and women have definitely different diagrams that have been formed over thousands of years and are aimed at the tasks of survival of the species – the successful transfer of their own genes. In particular, mixing the gene pool and taking care of the offspring so that they could live long enough to pass on their genes too.

This article is not about evolution, but suffice it to say that the feelings and behavior generated by these neurotransmitters are related to survival (the gene of continuation of the species and survival) exists in us today because they were the most successful in helping our ancestors to survive and reproduce, help the offspring survive and also produce offspring.